The last time I heard someone say, “She never complained,” about a suffering person, I cringed. A part of me wanted to say, “Why not? Why did she not say things like, ‘I feel hurt’ or ‘I feel scared’...etc. Why is the stifling of pain and suffering now perceived as a good thing? What is wrong with this picture?” The sadistic targeting demands no complaints - no acknowledgement of the pain - no tears - no talking about it - no facing it and no healing from it. If you are ever tortured or suffering...I hope you complain until you receive the comfort and help you need. Its OK to acknowledge and talk about it.